It was like a switch flipped
Success Story ADHD and Relationships
“I’ve had an ADHD diagnosis for a few years, but honestly, the label never really helped. I thought: OK, I’m just like this – chaotic, unfocused, too much in my head. But what do I do with that? I was constantly stressed, irritable, started everything and finished nothing. My everyday life felt like pure chaos. Same in my relationship: I’d withdraw, get overwhelmed, feel guilty – and in the end, I didn’t know how to function at all.
The turning point was reading your book “ADHD Decoded”. That’s when something clicked – especially the part about unmet needs. That this restlessness, this being constantly “driven” – isn’t a flaw. It’s a signal. For the first time, I understood: my restlessness isn’t because I’m broken. It’s because I keep ignoring my own needs.
So I started restructuring my life around what I actually need. I asked myself: What’s missing? What nourishes me?
For example: I realized I need structure – but not rigid systems. I need visuals, colors, small steps. I redesigned my week around things that support me. I started writing again. I created space for rest – even when it felt “unproductive” – because my mind needs that.
And above all: I learned to feel again. Not just in my head, but in my body. That was new – and honestly, beautiful. It felt like refueling. Now, this inner sensing has become my compass. I notice much sooner when I’m pushing past my limits – or when something is right. Not as a thought, but as a feeling.
It was like a switch flipped: suddenly I knew what mattered – and how to follow through. “
Laura, 31
